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Am I really so naïve, stupid, Good, ….?

As I was driving home Saturday night I saw a girl sitting on the road.
When I stopped my car and got out I saw she was fallen with her scooter. The first attempts to ask her name and what has happened failed because she appeared to be in some sort of shock.
After some time she could tell me her name but got rather hysterical when she realised her face was slightly bruised. She insisted she could get home herself and wanted to get back on her scooter but only then we could see she couldn’t stand on her foot. I assumed it could be broken and wanted to take her to the hospital. Again she refused but she did wanted me to bring her home, so I did.

When I got her home and I told her father what had happened he got to the car, pulled her out and went inside. He only made time to ask what had happened with the scooter and yell at the poor girl. I could tell there was some tension so I left, while I was getting in my car the father ran back outside making sure I didn’t still have some of her belongings. :?
Now I didn’t expected anything but a thank you would have been nice, I certainly didn’t expect the way the guy treated me or his daughter.

What surprised me even more was the reaction of my family and friends. They all told me they wouldn’t have stopped and certainly didn’t bring the girl home.
Why Not? Wouldn’t you be happy if someone would do the same for you? :?:
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Yes mate, I'd be very happy. Hopefully it won't stop you from helping someone out again. He may have appreciated it afterward.

Get some business cards made up and leave one next time :D
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I have no idea how I got home from the pub last weekend. Thank's to the one that got me home.
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Almiche V wrote:Yes mate, I'd be very happy. Hopefully it won't stop you from helping someone out again. He may have appreciated it afterward.

Get some business cards made up and leave one next time :D
not a bad Idea.
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Christophe...no matter what anyone else says mate...you did the right thing...just because the girls family is totally fcuked up does not mean that you are wrong to stop and give assistance...next time something like that happens and you're there and can help out...you do it...


just a word of caution tho...maybe you should have said to the girl to phone home and tell them whats happened before you took her home...or better still call the emergency services and let them deal with her...


anyways...you were right to stop...and you did the right thing!...

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Good Man christophe! Right On Sister, never pass by on the other side :notworthy: :notworthy: :notworthy: :notworthy:
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First of all, I do not care what anyone thinks. I’ll do the same for anyone and I don’t think I did something special.
My point is the fact people don’t expect you to do so anymore.
they even disagrea and I saw alot of cars ride right past us.
I didn’t call for the emergency services because I didn’t think it was necessary, I wanted to bring her to the hospital myself but she refused.
I wanted her to call her parents but again she refused, it wouldn’t be a problem she said, but as we approached her home she told me she was gone go right to bed and would tell her parents the next day.
I was still afraid she was severe hurt so I insisted to speak to one of her parents so I could explain what had happened.
For mine and her sake. ........
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Unfortunately I've come to the conclusion lately that when you go through your life trying to do nice things for others, you will eventually be met by ingratitude at best, and people taking advantage of you at worst. :roll:

That said, cristophe, your actions were highly commendable and, yes, if I were in that position I'd want someone to stop for me. Only I'd try to show some gratitude...

So, it looks like we have our very own Heartland Hero. Three cheers for Super-christophe! :D
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Bloody people :?
Don't you understand that’s the opposite of what I want to hear.






But thanks anyway. :wink:
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A lot of people would rather stomp you on the nose when you try to help them out instead of thanking you for the helping hand.

That's because people are more used to the violence stories in the news than to people actually helping each other out...

Welcome to the (sur)real world.

And thanx to peeps like you Christophe, I didna lose all belief in mankind yet!

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Then there's the flipside. If you hadn't helped out I wouldn't be humming Simply Ded.
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christophe wrote:Bloody people :?
Don't you understand that’s the opposite of what I want to hear. But thanks anyway. :wink:
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What do you want to hear then? :lol:

You're a mean, callous, heartless bastard for stopping to help her!

That better? ;)

No man, you did a good thing. Be proud of yourself. ;D
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smiscandlon wrote:Unfortunately I've come to the conclusion lately that when you go through your life trying to do nice things for others, you will eventually be met by ingratitude at best, and people taking advantage of you at worst. :roll:
Too true. As we say here, each good deed is bound to be rightly punished.
Unless you believe in God Almighty who sees everything and keeps strict record of every little thing you do.
Still, I believe what you did was the right thing to do.
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well done Christophe :D you did the right thing :notworthy:
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markfiend wrote:
christophe wrote:Bloody people :?
Don't you understand that’s the opposite of what I want to hear. But thanks anyway. :wink:
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What do you want to hear then? :lol:

You're a mean, callous, heartless bastard for stopping to help her!

That better? ;)

No man, you did a good thing. Be proud of yourself. ;D
Right. :roll:

I was a bit f*ckd up with the reactions I got before I started this topic.
Thanks for sheering me up people, but you do realise I expect the same from you guys now. :wink:

Smiscandlon & emma
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You can’t always do good for everyone and people will always take advantage of you. but is that the lesson we want to teach our children?
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You did the right thing by trying to help. But I think I might be able to explain the fathers reaction...

I live in the US, so I can't vouch for how things work in other parts of the world. There are some sick, sad people here. I have a daughter (just turned a year old Saturday). I'll play out this scenario like she's old enough to go riding around on her own (or riding around at all).

If I see a strange man drop off my injured daughter, the first thing I think is...what the hell did this guy do to my daughter? As a mother, that would be my first reaction.

It's possible that the fathers reaction was to be suspicious of you (even though your motives were honorable, the father doesn't know that), and be angry with his daughter for accepting a ride from a stranger. And that reaction is very understandable. Although your intentions were good, the next guy to approach her may have had very different motives. So I definately would have been upset with my daughter for getting into a strangers car, because she would have no way of knowing that you weren't some child killer/molester.

Now, later on that day, after I found out that you were, in fact, an decent guy doing a very good thing, if I were to see you again I would thank you profusely (although still mad at my daughter for taking the ride from a stranger).

You didn't just save the girl from having to walk home when she was injured, you may have very well saved her from the next man to pull up who had ill intentions.

So, yeah, the world can be a crappy place with crappy people, but it's nice to know that you're not one of them. I'm sure that after the father got the full story of what happened, he was grateful you stopped to help.
I would have done something, but I was overwhelmed by a lack of concern.
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I don’t blame him for his reaction towards me or even he’s daughter but as I said I think there where tensions between father and daughter before. I could tell by the way she first reacted when I told her to call her parents. I would probably have the same reaction as you when someone would drop of my daughter ….

The thing I’m having troubles with is the way we first seem to think “what will people think� before we do something, I’m very bad in that kind of stuff, my first reaction would be to do what is most urgent.

I’ll probably never see them again, I was thinking of dropping by to see how she is doing but I don’t know if it would be appreciated.
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christophe wrote:I was thinking of dropping by to see how she is doing but I don’t know if it would be appreciated.
Maybe. Maybe not.

Many years ago on my way home after a gig, some p!ssed up b*stard took a dislike to my face, and decided to rearrange it for me with his fists and feet.

A guy and girl stopped to help me out, and a couple of days later they turned up at my door to check out how I was doing. I'd never seen these people before that night, have never seen them since, but them taking the time to look me up really restored my faith in humanity after a fairly sh!tty experience.

Whether you take the time to drop by or not, the bottom line mate is that you did do the "right thing" when a lot of people wouldn't have made the effort.
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Oh dear, sounds like a typical Glasgow story Stephen, (the bad craziness bit). The rest is the real Glasgow and a story of good people. I'm sorry you got a kickin' but I'm damn proud of the couple who didn't stand by or pass on the other side.

If I were Sister christophe I'd pay the family of that girl a call
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Even I think you did the right thing Christophe. Thumbs up and all that shi*e!!
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Sexygothâ„¢ wrote:Even I think you did the right thing Christophe. Thumbs up and all that shi*e!!
:oops: thanks ........
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Just weighing in on the subject...

Christophe ya' knew when ya' very first pulled ovr that what you were doing was right! Bet that ya' didn't even hesitate...

But because society in general tends to not want to get involved in other people's issues or emergencies because they fear that it will become some sort of entanglement, that it will put them out or something along those lines... don't practice those beliefs so can only speculate why...
People have become not only jaded but suspicous of those who still carry about a bit of compassion. IMHO believe that was the deal with the father... but don't let that negative slant even occupy space in your mind because ya' know although dad was a chucklehead... if in the predictament again you would do the very same- especially when the cause was someone who was visibly in distress.
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Happy end after all. Sort of.

I decided to visit the girl this afternoon to see how she was doing. Her mother seemed very nice and she herself recognised me but didn’t remember a bit of what had happen. Her bruises ware almost healed but her foot wasn’t okay at all, not broken as I assumed but it was beaten up pretty hard.
Luckily the mother wasn’t been mad at her for taking a ride from a stranger and my actions ware appreciated. (Thank God)
Her father, who wasn’t home, was under the impression I was one of her friends when I dropped her of. Wish makes his actions even stranger to me …. But non the less he was happy with her save bean as well.

I’m still surprised by the reactions I got from other people but its nice to have met her in normal circumstances and to see they reacted in a friendly way.
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