The Sisters of Mercy Forum
Exactly. For me, honesty and being open are the first things I ask for - if they're not possible the whole experiment is pointless.andymackem wrote: but I don't think I could handle a lover with whom I didn't feel confident of being able to express myself fully.
It is hard to breed for the picky ones...andymackem wrote:Maybe my standards are too high. Again.
Hear, hear - both of you. I expect - demand - honesty in a relationship. Otherwise, it's all based on bullsh1t and has no basis in (my) reality. Problem with integrity? Then you've got a problem with *me*.Eva wrote:Exactly. For me, honesty and being open are the first things I ask for - if they're not possible the whole experiment is pointless.andymackem wrote: but I don't think I could handle a lover with whom I didn't feel confident of being able to express myself fully.
And yes, I prefer hurting or getting hurt to not telling or hearing the truth.
SINsister wrote:Who said anything about breeding? *Shudder*canon docre wrote:It is hard to breed for the picky ones...
Uuups, I must have mixed the lines in my dictionnary.... Now I see, it stands "zool." before.... I m not that arrogant.. I meant rather: find partners, get married, get kids. Something like that... Nevermind.cheers! I think I deserve some happiness in the end!!!Mrs RicheyJames wrote:
All the Best D.
my heart says one thing but my realistic mind always tries to deny it!Follow your heart.
what i I am happy with them in the cyber world but unhappy in the real world?If you're not happy with someone in the cyber world, you're not going to be happy in the really real world!
I hope so, but part of me is giving up already! A huge part of me I should say... And there is soemthing else on the horizon, which is gonna be even harder!!!!As you know relationships take work and it's never easy. Long distance ones are twice as hard, but if it's both what you really really want </Spice Girls>, then these things have a habit of working out.
Nope, you don't need new glasses - over here, "breeding" is slang for having kids. What I meant is that to me, having kids = YUCK. Hell, I guess it's a good thing I don't want kids - I'm so picky, I can barely find anyone to *SNOG* (let alone, shag...canon docre wrote:SINsister wrote:Who said anything about breeding? *Shudder*canon docre wrote:It is hard to breed for the picky ones...
*walks off to get a new pair of glasses*
)! I'm doomed. *Sigh* 
Likewise.andymackem wrote:Maybe in your world, hopefully not in mine._emma_ wrote: .... the vast majority of relationships are based on deceit ....
I might be cynical about relationships, but I could never imagine believing that.
Same here. Obviously I'm not even searching.SINsister wrote:Nope, you don't need new glasses - over here, "breeding" is slang for having kids. What I meant is that to me, having kids = YUCK. Hell, I guess it's a good thing I don't want kids - I'm so picky, I can barely find anyone to *SNOG* (let alone, shag...
Well, I guess that's different for different people. I might have difficulties trusting somebody again after he'd hurt me, yes, but if he's honest about it, for me it would be easier, because then at least he gives me a free choice.Delilah wrote:One thing I know for sure... once you got hurt it is almost IMPOSSIBLE to trust somebody again. You have a feeling everybody is deceiving you...
Maybe it is called paranoia. Maybe reality...
I am of the 'when I fall in love, it will be for ever....' persuasion.Eva wrote:
On the other hand: I've been hurt by former boyfriends too, and have suffered severely, but that has never kept me from falling in love again when I met somebody new. After some time of grief of course, but that's the price I paid happily (in hindsight)...
How do you mean?straylight wrote: I am of the 'when I fall in love, it will be for ever....' persuasion.
I've seen it happen. Just not with any of my previous girlfriends (plural consecutive, not concurrent). Ain't life a bitch, huh?timsinister wrote:Not at all Andy; I suspect I'm associating with the wrong kind of people.
I'd like to believe a relationship comes with no ambiguity, hidden depths, off-topics or borders...
But I've yet to see it happen. Maybe someone will come along to shatter this cold, psychological outlook.
More like the second one I suppose- but really I think I only could let it happen once, & even that wouldn't be easy. I don't necessarily believe there is such a thing as 'true love', but I know that if I thought I'd done it ( even if it had not been returned) I couldn't do it again.Eva wrote:How do you mean?straylight wrote: I am of the 'when I fall in love, it will be for ever....' persuasion.
- In the sense of "One can only fall in love once/There's just one true love in a life time" or
- in the sense of "Should I fall in love I want it to last for ever."?
I'm not intending to start a discussion on that, I'm just curious...
Step back. Find an empty field. A clear night sky. A portable device and The Pink Floyd's Dark Side Of The Moon. Betcha can't resist a wiggle as you sing to the stars.Delilah wrote:And there is soemthing else on the horizon
Yes, I have tried that Francis! But I have another way of dealing with an old disappointment and something new that is very "long-distance" now. And it is very very pleasant BTWFrancis wrote:Step back. Find an empty field. A clear night sky. A portable device and The Pink Floyd's Dark Side Of The Moon. Betcha can't resist a wiggle as you sing to the stars.Delilah wrote:And there is soemthing else on the horizon
You've put your finger right on it, Dark. Some people. Essentially, asking the question in the title of this thread is NEVER going to yield a definitive answer, just a lot of conflicting opinions.Dark wrote:I can't hold any form of relationship together for more than a couple of weeks, online or offline.
Having said that, my friend's just met her boyfriend off the net. They meet now every couple of weeks and are really madly in love.
Guess it works for some people.
Damn your impeccable logic, Science Boy.timsinister wrote:Regarding internet relationships...well, if you're asking for advice over the net, that's the beginning of trust, isn't it?
"Zool"?! Ghostbusters!!! 
