long-distance relationships, do they work?

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Irrefutable arguments, yes...

The company of a good woman, no.

The price I must pay, it seems. :wink:
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Dark wrote:
Guess it works for some people.
I think it also depends on that OTHER person and their commitment to the whole thing. Also, it is so bloody easy to invent a whole new you over the Net and pretend that you are somebody completely different. For me it worked in a different way - I met somebody face to face first and the Net is really helping us to stay in touch. He lives in a different country, so it is very long-distance thing, also he is in the kind of industry I told myself I would never get involved with again. But I hope I will be able to say one day that lond-distance relatonships really do work! :D 8)
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Delilah wrote:But I hope I will be able to say one day that lond-distance relatonships really do work! :D 8)
good luck D

I hope this one works out for you 8)
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Brideoffrankenstein wrote:
Delilah wrote:But I hope I will be able to say one day that lond-distance relatonships really do work! :D 8)
good luck D

I hope this one works out for you 8)
My hopes are UP!!! And I had a month to think about it :innocent: :D
So - time to board the "train of flesh" I think! :oops:
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Enjoy D.

Being in a very positive relationship myself I like to hear about people in good relationships - and I'm sure that you deserve it ;D
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Delilah wrote:OK, we have "love and relationships" topic, now another question - what do you think about long-distance relationships? Do they work or is it a waste of time?
Had 3 long distance relations, non of them worked out.

When you are to far away of each other, you cannot help or bere there at som needed moments. when meeting each other you al full time araound, no free space !!! When some emotional things happend you cannot hugg you lover becouse you are not near by. Traveling cost allot of money, and when having allot fam in-laws and having a birthday " you travel allot !!!!!! "

I tried it 3 time's but no more !!!
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Delilah wrote:
Brideoffrankenstein wrote:
Delilah wrote:But I hope I will be able to say one day that lond-distance relatonships really do work! :D 8)
good luck D

I hope this one works out for you 8)
My hopes are UP!!! And I had a month to think about it :innocent: :D
So - time to board the "train of flesh" I think! :oops:
I wish you all the best, Delilah! :D

I'm still convinced that they can work out, if the commitment from both partners is there and if you really can stay in touch via phone or internet.

Besides I think it's very rewarding, because you have two different cultures at hand - "your" country and the country your partner lives in. I enjoyed that very much because it broadens horizons and allows a certain distance to and escape from the narrowness of one's own environment.... My two cents... :wink:
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How long does a distance have to be to qualify?

Would living within 70 miles, but working largely incompatible timetables, count as long-distance simply because it's hard to see one another?
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andymackem wrote:How long does a distance have to be to qualify?

Would living within 70 miles, but working largely incompatible timetables, count as long-distance simply because it's hard to see one another?
In a word... no.

You have to have different weather.

Preferably different time zones.
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boudicca wrote:
andymackem wrote:How long does a distance have to be to qualify?

Would living within 70 miles, but working largely incompatible timetables, count as long-distance simply because it's hard to see one another?
In a word... no.

You have to have different weather.

Preferably different time zones.
I'll see what I can bring back from Russia, now I know the rules of the game.

Is it illegal to actually meet the person in question at any point?
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andymackem wrote: Glad to hear it's sunny in Estonia, anyway. I'll see what I can bring back from Russia, now I know the rules of the game.

Is it illegal to actually meet the person in question at any point?
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Brandishes a handbag.

Was only seeking clarification of a couple of points. Do I claim a record for largest catch without casting any bait?
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andymackem wrote:Brandishes a handbag.
Always knew you were like that... :P :lol: :innocent:
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You should see me in my white stillettoes. I moved to Essex for a reason, you know :wink: :innocent:
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Shall we just call you Tracy and be done with it? :innocent: :lol:
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Tracymackem? You'll only upset people.

Shaz'n'Trace are soooooo 1980s.
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Would you prefer Beyonce?

As a name, I mean... :innocent: :lol:
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Was happy enough with my current name, to be honest.

But as Queen of the Iceni, aren't you the spiritual leader of Essex Girls? Or was attacking Southend a bit harder than burning down Colchester :lol:
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Delilah wrote:OK, we have "love and relationships" topic, now another question - what do you think about long-distance relationships? Do they work or is it a waste of time?
If Headingley-Beeston counts as long-distance, then no (that's a whole 6 miles).

That's also a whole two relationships ago.
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andymackem wrote:Was happy enough with my current name, to be honest.

But as Queen of the Iceni, aren't you the spiritual leader of Essex Girls? Or was attacking Southend a bit harder than burning down Colchester :lol:
I've mellowed over the years.... ;D
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Well, here is a heinous amount of flirting at least, over the internet.

I don't know if it's meant as a masterclass but you get the idea.

Do what feels right at the time & remember we tend to regret what we didn't do more than what we did.
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straylight wrote:we tend to regret what we didn't do more than what we did.
you wanna bet? :urff: :lol: :lol: :lol: :wink:
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I don't regret a single thing I've ever done. Or not done.

Which isn't to say I wouldn't make different decisions given the opportunity to make them again but where I am in life is the sum of every decision I've ever made and I like where I am.
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_emma_ wrote:As for long-distance relationships, I reckon they're much better than short-distance relationships. But Internet relationships are even better.
Before some of you say I'm stupid, please consider that the starting point of this conclusion is the assumption that the vast majority of relationships are based on deceit (because if they weren't, they wouldn't exist at all), and it's so much more comfortable to deceive and to be deceived when there's some room in between us.
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Quiff Boy wrote:
straylight wrote:we tend to regret what we didn't do more than what we did.
you wanna bet? :urff: :lol: :lol: :lol: :wink:
OK, there's always exceptions.... :wink:

Depends on the opportunities presented I suppose!
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