I'm back... and so homesick already...
Just got back from my holidays in Poland and feeling so down... had a great time over there and really don't want to be in the UK. I have a feeling I don't belong here and never will... this is not my country and I should have never moved here. Have been in the UK nearly 6 years and still feel like a stranger. Being in Poland made me realise how much happier I am over there and if my situation was different (meaning, if I have not started a family with an English guy) I would just packed my stuff and went back. Sorry for whingeing, but I am really on the verge of crying all the time...
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Very sorry indeed
But very glad you had a good stay in Poland
But very glad you had a good stay in Poland
Welcome home.
And drag your man back to Poland, I'll bet he would love to live there
And drag your man back to Poland, I'll bet he would love to live there
I think someone set my soul alight
After four years of living here, I feel much the same about New York. I don't know what your working situation is, but perhaps you and yer man can work out a six-month back and forth thing, Ã la Persephone and Hades? Just a thought.Delilah wrote:I have a feeling I don't belong here and never will... this is not my country and I should have never moved here. Have been in the UK nearly 6 years and still feel like a stranger.
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Hey, I was beginning to feel there was a Delilah-shaped hole in this place!
Welcome back babe!
I'm sorry to hear you're feeling that bad. What the others said - try and talk it over with the kids' dad? If possible. Maybe if he's not keen on it just now (I gather your kids are pretty young), he might be more open to the idea that you could take them when they're a little older and can maybe decide with you if they would like to live there.
If not, nip over on holiday as often as you can... 's the best I can say. I don't pretend to know what I'm talking about, just hope you feel better soon.
Claire
Welcome back babe!
I'm sorry to hear you're feeling that bad. What the others said - try and talk it over with the kids' dad? If possible. Maybe if he's not keen on it just now (I gather your kids are pretty young), he might be more open to the idea that you could take them when they're a little older and can maybe decide with you if they would like to live there.
If not, nip over on holiday as often as you can... 's the best I can say. I don't pretend to know what I'm talking about, just hope you feel better soon.
Claire
There's a man with a mullet going mad with a mallet in Millets
my situation is not very straightforward though... I have a child who was born here and is more English than Polish... As much as she likes going to Poland on holidays, I think it would be very difficult for her to live there. She does not even speak the language properly... And my other half would never move there either. It would not be practical for him, because of his kind of work. Seems like I'm stuck here... BUT, I have some nice Polish beer to cheer me up!
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So, how does a mad one look then ?
Hm. Went to visit my folks for two weeks but glad I'm back. Don't get me wrong it is nice to see my relatives but the combination of extreme flatness and close proximity headcount does make me shiver these days.
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I'm glad you had such a great time D, but am sorry to hear you are feeling so sad
Looks like the people who are living next door. They just finished singing Jingle Bells very loudly and will probably be soon pissing through the garden fence (at least that is what they did yesterday around this time). How do you say 'Shut the f*** up' in Polish?
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Hi there Delilah..I'm pretty much in the same boat as you but then with 2 of the little monsters. Have been living in Holland for 10 years now and I have vowed only 5 more.....kids no matter what age and the person that loves you too will learn to adapt in another country with another language because they look to you as guidance and that is what you reign as mother.
Feel with you when missing family and friends.....mine are all in that sunny South Africa and homesickness is a f**king b*tch but hey...the tears dry and you become yet stronger being who you are now.
I work for a Polish lady and her man is Dutch and there are so many of *our* type out there but my dear lady....it does make you a better and stronger person and your better-half loves you even more for it.
Smile because once the tears dry....a smile allows the sun to come out from behind the clouds.
Sent with *energy* of the very white kind
MB
Feel with you when missing family and friends.....mine are all in that sunny South Africa and homesickness is a f**king b*tch but hey...the tears dry and you become yet stronger being who you are now.
I work for a Polish lady and her man is Dutch and there are so many of *our* type out there but my dear lady....it does make you a better and stronger person and your better-half loves you even more for it.
Smile because once the tears dry....a smile allows the sun to come out from behind the clouds.
Sent with *energy* of the very white kind
MB
it's all about circles and spirals
that ongoing eternity
that ongoing eternity
Karst wrote:Looks like the people who are living next door. They just finished singing Jingle Bells very loudly and will probably be soon pissing through the garden fence (at least that is what they did yesterday around this time). How do you say 'Shut the f*** up' in Polish?
just join them for one! you will never leave!
Hey you! I've missed you. No-one else can machine gun 380 words a minute down a telephone line. I have been kept up to speed by N. Not only does Mummy not know about the extra landline in Devon, she sure as hell doesn't know about the extra mobile.
Yes, if you're having withdrawal symptoms and you're that way inclined.
Welcome back.
Yes, if you're having withdrawal symptoms and you're that way inclined.
Welcome back.
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@ MB, thanks for the kind words of advice Girl... South Africa? I really feel for you, I am sure you don't get to see your family and friends very often, poor you. We should cheer each other up in Tilburg! lets have a whingeing session there!
No intention of doing that. Work to do. And the tensions between Polish migrant workers and the 'locals' make things quite difficult here unfortunately.Delilah wrote: just join them for one! you will never leave!
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Wait until Tilburg...... ..some red wine or whiskey and a bit of a smoke and a bit of a and then we'll all get and go and then the sisters will watch the sisters.....
MB
MB
it's all about circles and spirals
that ongoing eternity
that ongoing eternity
a Kolsch + a bit of will do for me! looking forward to that!MadameButterfly wrote: Wait until Tilburg...... ..some red wine or whiskey and a bit of a smoke and a bit of a and then we'll all get and go and then the sisters will watch the sisters.....
MB
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welcome back Ania!
can't really add to what's already been said:glad your holiday was cool and sorry you are feeling down...though it sounds like you are cheering up a bit now?that's 'cause you're HOME.and i don't mean england.
can't really add to what's already been said:glad your holiday was cool and sorry you are feeling down...though it sounds like you are cheering up a bit now?that's 'cause you're HOME.and i don't mean england.
Well I was handsome and I was strong
And I knew the words to every song.
"Did my singing please you?"
"No! The words you sang were wrong!"
And I knew the words to every song.
"Did my singing please you?"
"No! The words you sang were wrong!"