An announcement for those who wish me well

Does exactly what it says on the tin. Some of the nonsense contained herein may be very loosely related to The Sisters of Mercy, but I wouldn't bet your PayPal account on it. In keeping with the internet's general theme nothing written here should be taken as Gospel: over three quarters of it is utter gibberish, and most of the forum's denizens haven't spoken to another human being face-to-face for decades. Don't worry your pretty little heads about it. Above all else, remember this: You don't have to stay forever. I will understand.
Post Reply
_emma_
Overbomber
Posts: 2014
Joined: 24 Oct 2003, 10:19

On Saturday May 26th 2007 my infamous 17 years' relationship ended for ever. No matter how ill and toxic it was, I feel terrible emptiness, and it's very hard to cope with life now. It's like a death in the family.
There's clothes and CDs and books to pack, and plenty of mutual things that I don't know what to do with, icluding tons of photos, souvenirs, and the dog.
Thank God there is Geiselwind and Zottegem to look forward to, otherwise I don't know what I'd do with myself.
I am now 31 and so experienced, devoid of all hope, faith, and love.
Sorry for the rant. As it says in the topic, this is just a thread for those who wish me well.
Top
User avatar
eotunun
Overbomber
Posts: 3730
Joined: 06 Aug 2005, 22:24
Location: (X,Y,Z)(t)=huh!²

Time will help you out of it.
Several :notworthy:s and best wishes! (Not just well..)
"These are my principles! And if you don't like the just says so, I have others, too!"
~Rufus T. Firefly
Top
User avatar
pikkrong
Overbomber
Posts: 3929
Joined: 19 Aug 2002, 01:00
Location: Estonia

don't know anything wise to say - every human being and every relationship is different... but I wish you the best, sincerely.
do i drive
or am i driven
Top
User avatar
mh
Above the Chemist
Posts: 8102
Joined: 23 Jun 2003, 14:41
Location: A city built on rock 'n' roll

It's always sad when these things happen, but there's hope too, and plenty of good things to look forward to. Clinging on to something that's run it's course will only end up destroying you, so let yourself feel the hurt and get it out of your system! :notworthy:
If I told them once, I told them a hundred times to put 'Spinal Tap' first and 'Puppet Show' last.
Top
User avatar
6FeetOver
Childlike Empress
Posts: 7683
Joined: 25 Jan 2002, 00:00
Location: way on down south, New London town...
Contact:
Contact 6FeetOver

*17 years* - and you're just 31?! Wow. I'm so sorry to hear that, emma... *Hugs* :cry:
I left my heart in Ballycastle... :cry: :cry: :cry:
Top
User avatar
Badlander
Overbomber
Posts: 3566
Joined: 16 Feb 2006, 20:17
Location: At the Edge of the Deep Green Sea

:cry: :cry: :cry:
Sorry to hear that. Just keep your head up high and don't forget you've got friends.
I'd end this moment to be with you
Through morphic oceans I'd lay here with you
Top
User avatar
Zuma
Slight Overbomber
Posts: 1831
Joined: 24 Jan 2003, 00:36

Just what all the good folks above have said Emma...we are just a click away if you need it and take good care...
Todays sarcasm is tomorrow's news
Top
User avatar
Izzy HaveMercy
The Worlds Greatest Living Belgian
Posts: 8844
Joined: 29 Jan 2002, 00:00
Location: Long Dark Forties
Contact:
Contact Izzy HaveMercy

Taaaa..haaaa...ha..haaaaaaim!!!

Is on yer saaa..haaaa...de!

Yes it is ;)

All the best, the future is now!

It's also jist a PM awa' ;)

IZ.
.
.
For Greater Good - Ambient Music for the Masses...
.
.
Top
User avatar
Tidal
Gonzoid Amphetamine Filth
Posts: 442
Joined: 06 Mar 2007, 11:50
Location: The Hollow Land

be relieved, there is more to life. One will learn to cope with it and... simply live on. Things you have lived with for so long suddenly disappearing always rip a part of yourself with them. But you can leave it behind. Most importantly, I think, is to find something to live for again.
It's good to be back
Top
User avatar
Ozpat
From the Lowlands
Posts: 6758
Joined: 16 Aug 2005, 13:14
Location: In the place through which we wander.

One of the hardest things in life. The end of a long term relationship...

All the good things are said above. HL is a good place to talk to people and find true caring friends. It's you who has to deal with this pain which is, from my own experience, horrible....like someone close to you died indeed. Just do not forget that you are never alone...

All the best Emma!
"as we walk on the floodland"
Top
libby
Utterly Bastard Groovy Amphetamine Filth
Posts: 522
Joined: 24 Apr 2006, 21:54

Hang on girl and never lose faith, hope and love ...

All the best ...
Top
User avatar
weebleswobble
Underneath the Rock
Posts: 5875
Joined: 09 Feb 2006, 06:57
Location: The Bat-Milk Cave
Contact:
Contact weebleswobble

Keep yer heed up

Time, no matter how long it takes, will heal these wounds
‎"We will wear some very loud shirts. We will wear some very wrong trousers."
Top
User avatar
Planet Dave
Underneath the Rock
Posts: 6700
Joined: 22 Apr 2003, 23:51
Location: Where the streets fold round

Still so young at 31 emma, as everyone has correctly said, time heals. Stay strong, and lookforward to The Heartland Effect at Zottegem.
'What a heavy load Einstein must have had. Morons everywhere.'
Top
paint it black
Black, black, black & even blacker
Posts: 4963
Joined: 11 Jul 2002, 01:00

Image
Goths have feelings too
Top
User avatar
eldorado69
Road Kill
Posts: 60
Joined: 19 May 2007, 20:42

I had a 10yr relationship/marriage that collapsed and have only recently emptied the last of his things from the attic. Even though it was for the greater good that this happened (he is now in prison) it makes it no easier when I am reminded of him as he is part of my past that created my present. My heart goes out to you. :cry:
Top
User avatar
robertzombie
Overbomber
Posts: 4380
Joined: 05 Sep 2005, 12:49
Location: London

I recently came out of a relationship myself. Mine was nothing compared to 17 years but I know it's hard to come to terms with.
The others are right, time is the best healer and you will feel better with time.

I found the best way to forget about her was to do fun things with friends that would occupy me.

All the best emma :)
Top
User avatar
stefan moermans
Slight Overbomber
Posts: 1042
Joined: 04 Jul 2006, 22:36
Location: rotselaar, belgium

hi em

although we don't know each other personally. If you need a listening ear/eye, you'll know how to PM. Hang onthere. Zottegem is not far away :P :cry:
MUSICA È
Top
User avatar
undertow
Amphetamine Filth
Posts: 204
Joined: 21 Oct 2006, 00:17
Location: Clarksville

SINsister wrote
you're just 31?!
Exactly! however crap it is now, it will get better.
I came out of a longterm relationship at 32 and now ten years later I'm married with twin daughters

Actually . I'm not sure if that's cheering or not ,but it just shows you never know what's around the corner...even Justin Hawkins' Tiger

take care
'I have reason to believe' he said, 'that one of you has been going out at night!'
Top
User avatar
Pista
Cureboi
Posts: 17583
Joined: 25 Jun 2006, 15:03
Location: Lost In A Forest
Contact:
Contact Pista

I wish I was 31 again.
Sorry to hear your news Emma :(
But you know you're amongst friends at HL.
Remember the HL effect & you can do anything.

Steve
Cheers.
Steve
Just like the old days
TheCureCommunity
Top
User avatar
markfiend
goriller of form 3b
Posts: 21181
Joined: 11 Nov 2003, 10:55
Location: st custards
Contact:
Contact markfiend

_emma_ wrote:As it says in the topic, this is just a thread for those who wish me well.
Which is surely all of us.
The fundamental cause of the trouble is that in the modern world the stupid are cocksure while the intelligent are full of doubt.
—Bertrand Russell
Top
User avatar
culprit
Utterly Bastard Groovy Amphetamine Filth
Posts: 580
Joined: 07 Jan 2005, 23:26
Location: durham, england

markfiend wrote:
_emma_ wrote:As it says in the topic, this is just a thread for those who wish me well.
Which is surely all of us.
seconded.

It sounds like it wasn't to be ems, move on and find the right one...

best wishes :kiss:
...mmmmmmmmmMMMMMM!....
Top
User avatar
psichonaut
Overbomber
Posts: 2703
Joined: 29 Mar 2007, 20:37
Location: somewhere in time in italy
Contact:
Contact psichonaut

someone said :THE SHOW MUST GO ON....
now a new life is starting for you...
forget past...
don't cry and think for a good future
thanks...my Lord...i'm unbeliver
tear up your pants for psicho...and jump on him
Top
User avatar
canon docre
Overbomber
Posts: 2529
Joined: 05 Mar 2005, 21:10
Location: Mother Prussia

it is probably hard to believe now that there'll be a day, when it doesnt hurt anymore. But this day will come. Believe that your next relationship will be better - and it will be.

All the best!
Put their heads on f*cking pikes in front of the venue for all I care.
Top
_emma_
Overbomber
Posts: 2014
Joined: 24 Oct 2003, 10:19

Thank you all.
I will reply to all the PMs, sooner or later. Not just now, cause now I have to check the trains between my place - Geiselwind - Zottegem - my place, and decide whether to go by train or by car. If I go by car, I will have 3 or 4 free places between Geiselwind and Zottegem.
As for the relationship, by far the worst thing about it is that I feel guilty for its demise. Not entirelly, but partially, yes. Was it his drinking that caused my sick obsession with the Sisters, or was my obsession what caused his drinking? This very question won't let me sleep at night, and as I try to go back to our past, I still can't see which to put the blame on.
Which is why I decided to put the announcement on this very forum.
Top
User avatar
bushman*pm
Utterly Bastard Groovy Amphetamine Filth
Posts: 875
Joined: 11 Feb 2006, 17:21
Location: THE BLACK HOLE OF LONDON

So sorry to hear your news mate, my wife rightfully describes me as
'an emotional retard' so I wont spout anything, just wish you good luck with your future happiness.
LAND ROVER: THE BEAST FOUR BY FOUR BY FEAR! KICKS THE ARSE OFF RICEBURNERS!
Top
Post Reply

Return to “General Chat”