stufarq wrote:eastmidswhizzkid wrote:i thought it was obvious in this instance that i wasnt joking or being conciliatory- i was pissed off and being confrontational with intent to upset.
how do you fight back where you come from?
I thought I'd made it clear I was asking everyone to
stop fighting. We're all pissed off and look where it's got us. Be conciliatory if you can, but if you can't, don't go out of your way to make it worse, or things'll just keep escalating.
well good for you! however, seeing as your "request" came after the event it really is only you thats continuing anything by analysing past deeds as if they are current or maybe still in the future. which brings us to:
stufarq wrote:As for the stuff markfiend mentioned that's gone on out of public view, I'm not aware of it (and don't need to be - it's none of my business),
quite right. so why are you joining in/ bringing these thngs up then?
stufarq wrote:but if it involves harassment and bullying, there are measures available to the mods to deal with that.
Ah! it's to tell the mods their jobs- very public-spirited of you but quite unnecessary i'm sure.
stufarq wrote: Instead, it's spilled over into the forum and dragged everyone in. Don't get me wrong - if there's been bullying, I have full sympathy with the victims, but the sniping's got out of hand and needs to stop, whether it involves mod sanctions or some people just taking a long cold shower until they've calmed down. Otherwise this place will remain a war zone. You can be part of the problem or you can be part of the solution.[/b]
hmmm... but it hasn't dragged everyone in has it? you and
bartek (surprise, surprise) and
zaltys7 are the only one's who have chosen to involve themselves in it and as a result we are still debating something 24 hours after it had effectively ended. you can be part of the problem or you can be part of the solution indeed.