sultan2075 wrote:Dan wrote:MadameButterfly wrote:sorry for the intrusion but about what mh says & does laz... what? why? they obviously lack the morals we seem to live by given down by our parents. like i try to give my children...
Many of them come from single parent families (not that there's anything wrong with that if the parent is a good parent) but with that one parent at work (or not giving a crap about the kid, or both) they don't spend as much time with their kids as they should, or their parent(s) don't give a sh!t and don't bother to teach their kids anything. And with a single parent family it's more likely to be the father who's absent, so the child has no father figure in it's life, and no discipline. Then when the child is old enough he/she starts school unable to read or write so they're disadvantaged from the outset, and with corporal punishment banned in schools (since sometime in the mid 80's?) there's no discipline at school either, so when they leave school at 16 they're sent out into the world damaged.
So how do we fix things? Maybe a bloody good shoeing to start with, but where do we go from there?
thanks for that Dan! kinda explains what type of people are in the mobs, well one part the them. if it's true that a child is in a single parent family and indeed dad is not there and mum has to earn money for a living lacking time for her kid/s it's still not an excuse. there are enough people i know that had a single parent family but the discipline definately came from mum. but then again there was also the "good way" teaching them morals, having a sh!t time as teenagers cause they were different but that violence streak was never seen. so then i think it depends what kind of background they come from. just like in a family where violence is used there are also studies that if kids are subjected to it at a very young age and it seems to be 'acceptable' in the family those kids will also use violence in their lives. but these hooligans are stealing and burning things to get back at the police? government? well it's just going to cost the tax payers more to fix & clean it all up. the mentality even from the older group of the mob is just outrageous. also the schools...corporal punishment was still in schools when i was there indeed in the 80's and that was the worst thing there was, remembering as a kid being hit with a wooden ruler on the nuckles of each hand second grade or something ridiculious. i'm against it now, saw enough caning of the boys that was so wrong, but we never started riots! we KNEW to stay away from the pigs cause we knew it would be worse than at school. just shows... if a teacher had to lay a hand on my child today there would be so much sh!t but i have good kids thank the stars...
sultan2075 wrote:I think you've hit the nail on the head. Single-parent families are--not always, but frequently--a problem for the children, and therefore for societies. In the US, there is a statistical correspondence between single-parent families and crime rates in a community. The more of one, the more of the other--see D.A. Smith and G.R. Jarjoura, "Social Structure and Criminal Victimization," Journal of Research in Crime and Delinquency 25. 1988. In a 1990 study by the Progressive Policy Institute (a left-wing American think tank) published a study suggesting that family structure is a much better indicator of future criminal behavior than economic class or racial demography (William Galston, Putting Children First).
And, since "data" is the plural of "anecdote," I will mention that my own experience growing up in the US has generally confirmed the findings of these studies, as have conversations with my students who come from single-parent homes in the worst part of the city. The link seems to be there. I'd be curious to know if that's the case in these neighborhoods as well.
I'd also add that Aristotle suggests if you have bad families, you'll have bad citizens. So this isn't exactly a new idea--but today, we need to see it proved via social science methodology.
So how do you address the moral problem? You have to rebuild the family. How do you do that?
and the moral problem.. well unfortunately i think that lies in our hands as the society to start opening our mouths when the youth get out of line and stand up for what you believe. the family is no basis so society and the government have to find a way of bring them up within the normal society. although i know people here in holland might, might not, depending on the situation, say something. i'm the kind of person if i'm with my kids and you have these "kids that hang around with nothing to do" and then they start swearing or harsh words, i ask them to watch their mouths as i have youngsters that i don't want to hear that, thank you very much. it's up to the governments to make money available that even the ones lacking in schooling to get that even if it is just reading & writing & if they don't have that mental capacity, then let them work with their hands.
i know as an outsider looking in, these things are easier said than done, but isn't it time for the mobs to stop & that also the politicians wake up?
and i'm not getting into political babble!
