Posted: 02 Mar 2006, 19:37
Edited out. This does not belong here.
Again, I get you impression you think children are just younger than adults, and that apart from that they have the same perception and understanding of their self and the world. I'm no expert in that matter, but from what I've been told on the subject, it is not so. The notion of "genuine love" itself is not one that is so easy to explain nor to understand, however sincere a person might feel about it.Dark wrote:What if there's a relationship between a 12-year-old (male or female) and a 25-year-old (again, male OR female) in which they have discussed sex openly, are using protection, and are genuinely in love?
It's easy to jump to the conclusion that the parties are a young "innocent" girl who has been tricked into believing there's love and a man who just wants a f**k with a young girl, not caring about her. Whether this was the case with Gary Glitter or not, you can't say that the same definition applies to all underage/adult relationships.
Yeah that is exactly what they do: Wait until the kid gets older and is ready for a grown up relationship. Jesus are you naive. If a child gets a better understanding of sexuality then because it is entering puberty which makes it immediately uninteresting for a paedophile.Dark wrote:or that they would refuse to do anything sexual until the child gets a better understanding of sex and sexuality.
I so agree and I must add that especially in that matter consent is not the absence of refusal. That's the excuse a lot of rapists use : "She didn't resist." Go figure, most of the time the victim is far too terrified or confused to even resist. But I agree that's slightly different.canon docre wrote:What are you trying to get across?
In 99% of all cases it is not, let-me-say-it-again: NOT mutual consent when a 10 year old gets f**ked by an older person. Are you people for abolishing that paragraph because of this 1% where a premature child is actually sexually interested in an elderly?? WTF?
Yeah that is exactly what they do: Wait until the kid gets older and is ready for a grown up relationship. Jesus are you naive. If a child gets a better understanding of sexuality then because it is entering puberty which makes it immediately uninteresting for a paedophile.Dark wrote:or that they would refuse to do anything sexual until the child gets a better understanding of sex and sexuality.
One last thing before I go shut the f**k up : you don't need to be a monster to break the law.Dark wrote: You'll note that I put that if the hypothetical "couple" would have discussed sex. It doesn't matter if a person's 16 or 12, they can still be taught about sex. Remember, in that situation, the older party is looking for more than just sex in their relationship, and it's fairly safe to assume that she/he would have the younger party's interests at heart, and not do anything that would be "unsafe" or that the younger party would not want to do. It's also possible that they do not want sex in that relationship, are they still the "monster" that they are described as?
Aye, well said.Obviousman wrote:C'mon this is a discussion
Nothing wrong with adding different angles - in fact, much appreciated - but then accept other people's opinions about it too
Well said!!!Obviousman wrote:C'mon this is a discussion
Nothing wrong with adding different angles - in fact, much appreciated - but then accept other people's opinions about it too
what?Ozpat wrote: I am a coach of a female soccer team.
Not affecting their lives yet. Maybe not now or in ten years or in twenty years but I believe it to have affects. And not good ones at that.Ozpat wrote:The younger girls in my team all had sex at the age of around 12. I find this hard to believe but apperently it happens and they speek freely about it. Apperently it does not affect their lives.
Indeed sad and judging around the years of your friends, I have many who were sexually abused too, many do have a darker side and of course it affects them, it's a process and a soul search and a hate to a certain degree. Abuse can be so underestimated until being a victim.Ozpat wrote:I know 2 girls who where sexualy abused by a grown up at the age of around 10. They are around 28 years old now and it affects their lifes big time. It's sad....
Now when you say it, I've slept with my lesbian friend in one bed too without any thoughts. I wouldnt necessarily do the same with one of you hairy things.Ozpat wrote: Funny thing is that the straight girls, except one, won't allow me to walk into the dressing room while they are taking a shower, but they have no problems with the lesbians watching them all the time...
Some of us are less hairy than otherscanon docre wrote:Now when you say it, I've slept with my lesbian friend in one bed too without any thoughts. I wouldnt necessarily do the same with one of you hairy things.Ozpat wrote: Funny thing is that the straight girls, except one, won't allow me to walk into the dressing room while they are taking a shower, but they have no problems with the lesbians watching them all the time...
Yeah going bald....Big Si wrote:Some of us are less hairy than otherscanon docre wrote:Now when you say it, I've slept with my lesbian friend in one bed too without any thoughts. I wouldnt necessarily do the same with one of you hairy things.Ozpat wrote: Funny thing is that the straight girls, except one, won't allow me to walk into the dressing room while they are taking a shower, but they have no problems with the lesbians watching them all the time...
Despite my current avatar which would theoretically be the only exception I generally go for the less hairy ones.Big Si wrote:Some of us are less hairy than otherscanon docre wrote:Now when you say it, I've slept with my lesbian friend in one bed too without any thoughts. I wouldnt necessarily do the same with one of you hairy things.Ozpat wrote: Funny thing is that the straight girls, except one, won't allow me to walk into the dressing room while they are taking a shower, but they have no problems with the lesbians watching them all the time...
Yes Debs they do have a darker side. A disorder they hardly talk about and hardly admit and is hard to recognize besides for the person they have got a relationship with at the time, which always is just for a while.MadameButterfly wrote:Not affecting their lives yet. Maybe not now or in ten years or in twenty years but I believe it to have affects. And not good ones at that.Ozpat wrote:The younger girls in my team all had sex at the age of around 12. I find this hard to believe but apperently it happens and they speek freely about it. Apperently it does not affect their lives.
Indeed sad and judging around the years of your friends, I have many who were sexually abused too, many do have a darker side and of course it affects them, it's a process and a soul search and a hate to a certain degree. Abuse can be so underestimated until being a victim.Ozpat wrote:I know 2 girls who where sexualy abused by a grown up at the age of around 10. They are around 28 years old now and it affects their lifes big time. It's sad....
I'm not having a go here, just adding my opinion but yes and no. When I was a teenager I thought I was being incredibly grown up about certain things (about issues to do with sex and other things as well) but only now that I am older I think back and realise that even though I thought I was being all grown up about something I was still actually acting fairly childishly. I don't want to sound patronising in any way but only now that I have grown up do I realise these things and I would have done things differently (not just because of hindsight).Motz wrote: It's entirely possible for "adult" conditions to occur in a child.
which brings up another ? - what the hell is straight?Ozpat wrote:3 lesbians, 2 bi-sexual and 10 straight.
I think this is something a lot of people experience. It's part of growing older and thinking back....Brideoffrankenstein wrote:I'm not having a go here, just adding my opinion but yes and no. When I was a teenager I thought I was being incredibly grown up about certain things (about issues to do with sex and other things as well) but only now that I am older I think back and realise that even though I thought I was being all grown up about something I was still actually acting fairly childishly. I don't want to sound patronising in any way but only now that I have grown up do I realise these things and I would have done things differently (not just because of hindsight).Motz wrote: It's entirely possible for "adult" conditions to occur in a child.
Yes I suppose they did but I thought I was being grown up about it all when I actually wasn'tOzpat wrote: What I mean is that at the time you made these decisions they kind of felt right didn't they?
Okay, see your point but when is a person a grown up. After puberty somewhere for sure I guess but when one is an adult doesn't automatically mean that one has grown up. It's an experience thing IMO.Brideoffrankenstein wrote:Yes I suppose they did but I thought I was being grown up about it all when I actually wasn'tOzpat wrote: What I mean is that at the time you made these decisions they kind of felt right didn't they?