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That sucks Fiendy
I hope she finds the care she needs

Thanks Steve.

It also doesn't help that I'm 65 miles away from my Mum's and my brother is over 300 miles away.

oh, mark <3

markfiend wrote: ↑05 Jan 2022, 11:55 My mum caught Covid a few weeks ago despite being triple-jabbed (she thinks she caught it on a coach-trip although what possessed her to go on a coach-trip in the middle of a fcuking pandemic is completely beyond me) and now seems to have post-Covid "brain-fog". She is recovering, but slowly, and she is still really not herself. She's always been fiercely independent and is savagely resisting leaving her own place for a home, but my brother and I think it might be inevitable to move her into 24-hour care.

Oh hell, that sounds bad. I really hope for her to recover and avoid having to leave her home and for sure not without her own consent. All my best wishes to you and her !!!

Thank you. Seriously.

The weird thing is how quickly she'd deteriorated. I saw her over Christmas, getting to her on Xmas eve and leaving on Boxing day. She was tired and sleepy, but seemed fully in possession of all her faculties. But then in the early hours of Dec 28, I got a phone-call at 4:30am from mum saying "Mark I've fallen and I don't know where I am".

She somehow thought that one of her friends had taken her shopping and abandoned her in the shopping centre. I managed to convince her that she must be in her house as she'd phoned me using her Amazon Alexa (and I am so so glad I got that for her last Xmas!) but I had to call an ambulance out to her as she couldn't get herself up off the floor. (She has had both hips replaced, and one of her hip replacements from ago has in turn been replaced.)

The ambulance men got her into her armchair and made her a cuppa, and by 5:30 she'd phoned me again to tell she was OK and hadn't needed to be taken to hospital (or as I strongly suspect, she hadn't wanted to go to hospital). Fortunately my brother was due to arrive to see her later that day, so she wasn't on her own for very long.

A big part of the problem we had was getting in touch with her doctors and care providers; because of the Holidays everywhere was closed, or at least not answering phone calls.

However, the situation is improving. We've got a social care company sending someone in to see mum once a day now, and they will advise us if they think she needs more help. We also have a cousin (coincidentally, she works in social care too) who lives a lot closer and has promised to pop in roughly weekly, and then there are all her friends looking in on her as they always have.

The cognitive effects of post-Covid syndrome ("covid brain fog") seem to be improving. My brother and I are hopeful that she's on the mend and that forcing her into 24-hour care won't be necessary. But it's been a bugger of a week.

love and best wishes from me Mark. (and there was me about to moan at the football being cancelled. feel proper dumb now)

Thanks Lee and don't worry, I won't mind if you moan about the footy

oh Mark how very stressful for you and your brother.
i also wish your mum a speedy recovery! i understand how she wants to stay independent for as long as she can before having to have to go into a home. when i worked in home care one of the things that may help is an alarm system that can be worn around the neck or as a bracelet that can be pressed if she has a fall again. it alerts a system that sends someone around. the key to door is in a tiny box next to the door with a code that the caretakers have to be able to get in. i am sure that kind of system is in the UK? also her neighbours, let them know what is going on so that extra eyes are watching.
sending love and hugs your way and to your mum

Best wishes to you and your mum .

Yes, send all of our love.
Am glad to hear that things have improved and you've got some help - fingers crossed

Massive vibes, Mark. Been there, I know what you're going through. Keep strong, and love to your mum.

Thinking of you and sending love. Hope your Mum gets the help she needs and feels better soon. It's such a worry x

MadameButterfly wrote: ↑06 Jan 2022, 17:51...one of the things that may help is an alarm system that can be worn around the neck or as a bracelet that can be pressed if she has a fall again. it alerts a system that sends someone around. the key to door is in a tiny box next to the door with a code that the caretakers have to be able to get in. i am sure that kind of system is in the UK?

Yes we're in the process of getting her a system like that. She's already got the key in the box outside for her cleaning lady and we're using it for the carers we've got in too.

Thanks everyone. My mum's a tough old bird, I'm sure we won't get rid of her that easily.

Hihi, I'm glad to hear she's getting better again already and that solutions are underway ... and with her friends keeping an eye on her she should do a lovely while longer now ... ... I always think of my grandmother. For nothing in the world had she gone to a care home, and fortunately, after all, she didn't have to but fell peacefully asleep one day after lunch when we all thought caring for her was perfectly arranged between us and could be done like this for however long a time without too much trouble. Again all the best to you, Mark and your family and your mum.

I see Quebec applied the "nuclear option" to get people vaccinated.

Pista wrote: ↑09 Jan 2022, 12:35 I see Quebec applied the "nuclear option" to get people vaccinated.

for all that i think anti-vaxers are f**king idiots, within that bracket this is still an attack on the poor and needy. rich anti-vaxers -who after all are just as likely to be drug-addicts and alchoholics - will simply get whatever they want delivered or bought by a vaccinated employee. if a government is going to use the 'stick' make it a law for all rather than a stealth attack using the proles.

well had my booster jab thursday evening, getting the Moderna shot as apposed to the Pfizer i had previously. that jab made me feel like i had been hit by a train, waking up friday not only with flu like symptoms but with headaches like someone was stabbing me in the head. exceeded the amount of paracetamol one should take but with that feeling i did not know what else to do. only started feeling like myself on sunday.
same thing happened after my second Pfizer jab.
obviously my body doesn't agree with the vaccines.

Yeah, I normally don't have any reaction to vaccines but I'd slept for a day after my second Pfizer and had a low grade headache for a coupla days after my (Moderna) booster. That's bad for me, so I can only imagine what it's like for someone who does take a reaction. Ouch - take care.

... great joking, particularly in view of the actual facts of the German Bundesliga ... ...

monday :-(

markfiend wrote: ↑07 Jan 2022, 10:25
Thanks everyone. My mum's a tough old bird, I'm sure we won't get rid of her that easily.

Glad to hear. I saw significant improvement with my Mom six month after she had covid. So there is certainly hope for major improvements.

half my class has tested positive.

emilystrange wrote: ↑30 Jan 2022, 21:26 half my class has tested positive.

bad news. best from here for everyone gets through it without seriously falling ill ...