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A few weeks ago on the BBC did anyone see a documetary about sons in their thirties still living at home with their parents and have no desire to move because mummy does everything for them!

If I were the parent I would've kicked them out year's ago!

My brothers and I left home part time at eleven and one good thing about leaving home early is that it makes you very independent when you actually leave the nest.In my case I finally left home at nineteen.

What age did you finally move away from home?

Or have you moved locally and mummy still does your washing?

16, moved back for a couple of years at 18/19, then left again at 20/21.

elamanamou wrote:What age did you finally move away from home?

Physically? Eighteen. Mentally? Some day soon with any luck.

My friend lives in Melbourne and she would like me to go out there and live.

As my mother is elderly it would feel like i'm saying goodbye to her for good going out there to live permantely.

I have worked abroad before but not at the end of the earth!

Hmm...an interesting topic because of the vast socioeconomic differences around the world, of course (not to mention family politics, etc.). In my case, it wouldn't have been *allowed* (don't even get me started there), nor would it have been economically feasible for me to leave home prior to graduating from high school at age 18 (the age at which most U.S. students leave school). I moved to Los Angeles for art school at 19, then moved back home again about a year later, as Dad couldn't afford to continue footing the school bills. I lived at my parents' place for another few years while I worked sh!tty jobs and saved some $$, then moved back to L.A. at 24. I moved back home yet again when the $$ ran out, which actually proved serendipitous because my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer a few months after I returned home. I put my life on hold over the course of the next year, while I pretty much single-handedly took care of my mom. When she was declared to be cancer-free (which, unfortunately, was not to remain the case ), I finally got my arse into uni full-time (at the "tender" age of 26)...

*Edited to add: I funded my uni career myself (government loans/grants/student work-study, etc.), and as a result, will be flat broke for the rest of my natural life from paying back the rotten U.S. gov't. Alas. You socialist-nation kiddies are *damn* lucky, lemme tell ya...

Wish I could leave tonight. I'd pack up my computer and records into a box, and shout, to quote a Ramones 7" bootleg, "We're Getting Out Of Here!"

i left home at 17...


it wasn't fun...it wasn't exciting...but i survived


stay at home for as long as you can...it's sweet...

i left at 18 to go to uni

And cheap!

My friend Susan hasn't seen her father for 10yrs.He lives in Harare, Zimbabwe.

It's a little sad because as you know Zim is a very unstable country, thanks to Magabe and Susan's father cannot afford the flight to visit Susan in the Uk and it's totally unsafe for her to visit him.

I went 10yrs ago with her to Zim and you could feel the tension way back then!

She misses her father very much

I initially moved out at the age of 18 to go to University, but moved back a few months later when I dropped out to start full time employment instead. 2 years later I decided to return to Uni and finish my degree, but severe debt (i.e. student loans spent mainly on beer) meant I had to move back with my parents again when I was 24 (oh the shame of it!). Finally left home for good when my job moved to York in 1996, which is where I still am to this day.

I first moved out when I was 18 but have returned several times for short periods. The good thing about my mum is that when it all goes tits up she's always welcomed me home. Even when things are going well, such as when I sold my flat and was moving from Scotland down to Kendal, she was happy to put me up for a couple of months, store all my things in her garage and then helped with the move.

My mum is great

SINsister wrote:Hmm...an interesting topic because of the vast socioeconomic differences around the world, of course (not to mention family politics, etc.). In my case, it wouldn't have been *allowed* (don't even get me started there), nor would it have been economically feasible for me to leave home prior to graduating from high school at age 18 (the age at which most U.S. students leave school). I moved to Los Angeles for art school at 19, then moved back home again about a year later, as Dad couldn't afford to continue footing the school bills. I lived at my parents' place for another few years while I worked sh!tty jobs and saved some $$, then moved back to L.A. at 24. I moved back home yet again when the $$ ran out, which actually proved serendipitous because my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer a few months after I returned home. I put my life on hold over the course of the next year, while I pretty much single-handedly took care of my mom. When she was declared to be cancer-free (which, unfortunately, was not to remain the case ), I finally got my arse into uni full-time (at the "tender" age of 26)...

*Edited to add: I funded my uni career myself (government loans/grants/student work-study, etc.), and as a result, will be flat broke for the rest of my natural life from paying back the rotten U.S. gov't. Alas. You socialist-nation kiddies are *damn* lucky, lemme tell ya...

Dear Sinnie, the contemporary government of germany is introducing fees for students. 500€ for a Semester (Half year period, I´ve no idea what You`d call it in the U.S.). Unfortunately they don`t plan to improve the situation at the unversities as a compensation. For example, when I started studying physics back in ´91 we had one professor for 700 students.. In total 4 Professors(Edit: For the courses that started october 1991), nice men yet totally frustrated by their vast task.. (By the way: I couldn`t finish my studies at all, due to monetary reasons.) I´m quite sure a lot of people around here can tell similar stories.

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@eotunun:

I'm sorry - I stand corrected.

But schools in the States (even the public universities, like state colleges) generally run anywhere from around $10K-$50K+ per academic year. So multiply that by 4 or so years, and...yeah.

SINsister wrote:@eotunun:

I'm sorry - I stand corrected.

But schools in the States (even the public universities, like state colleges) generally run anywhere from around $10K-$50K+ per academic year. So multiply that by 4 or so years, and...yeah.

OHH Cough..
Did you have further cost for your flat etc.?

By the way, My Story in short:
Never moved out, my home moved out off this world, in a way. I was nearly 13 when my father died in an accident, 17 when my mother died from illness. I stayed in our house, together with my granny and sister, yet not exactly as sheltered as in Mom&Dad`s house. (Yet I still miss it)
Homes can move, too..

eotunun wrote:Did you have further cost for your flat etc.?

By the way, My Story in short:
Never moved out, my home moved out off this world, in a way. I was nearly 13 when my father died in an accident, 17 when my mother died from illness. I stayed in our house, together with my granny and sister, yet not exactly as sheltered as in Mom&Dad`s house. (Yet I still miss it)
Homes can move, too..

Well, the way student financial aid works here is that any funds provided must be used to cover school expenses - so, that includes housing. But quite often, the financial aid offered isn't enough to pay for everything, so students have to find other ways of obtaining funding...


You're a very brave kid, eotunun. *Big higs*

@eotunun

My Father died when I was eighteen.Losing both parents at a very young must of been very tough for you.

elamanamou wrote:@eotunun

My Father died when I was eighteen.Losing both parents at a very young must of been very tough for you.

Aww, hopefully I didn´t actually make you and Sinny cry now!
Me, I´m a well fed dirtbag today. Only thing you must never forget is to keep on rocking!

I thought about doing my sympathy joke here. But even I'm not that callous.

Francis wrote:I thought about doing my sympathy joke here. But even I'm not that callous.

Come on.. It`s all for the show..

Men on a whole take longer to leave home.Guy's who're are very late leaving home and when they do finally settle down often look for a substite for their mother.It's very often the case!

It reminds me of the ancient BBC comedy SORRY starring Ronnie Corbett as Timothy!

elamanamou wrote:Men on a whole take longer to leave home.Guy's who're are very late leaving home and when they do finally settle down often look for a substite for their mother.It's very often the case!

It reminds me of the ancient BBC comedy SORRY starring Ronnie Corbett as Timothy!

Generally, I try to keep these things in, but your parents' money was sadly wasted.

Francis wrote:

elamanamou wrote:Men on a whole take longer to leave home.Guy's who're are very late leaving home and when they do finally settle down often look for a substite for their mother.It's very often the case!

It reminds me of the ancient BBC comedy SORRY starring Ronnie Corbett as Timothy!

Generally, I try to keep these things in, but your parents' money was sadly wasted.

*yawn!* John! You can do better.. I hope.

I left at 16, moved back for a 3 month stint at 19 before buying my own home.