Heartland

On Saturday May 26th 2007 my infamous 17 years' relationship ended for ever. No matter how ill and toxic it was, I feel terrible emptiness, and it's very hard to cope with life now. It's like a death in the family.
There's clothes and CDs and books to pack, and plenty of mutual things that I don't know what to do with, icluding tons of photos, souvenirs, and the dog.
Thank God there is Geiselwind and Zottegem to look forward to, otherwise I don't know what I'd do with myself.
I am now 31 and so experienced, devoid of all hope, faith, and love.
Sorry for the rant. As it says in the topic, this is just a thread for those who wish me well.

Time will help you out of it.
Several :notworthy:s and best wishes! (Not just well..)

don't know anything wise to say - every human being and every relationship is different... but I wish you the best, sincerely.

It's always sad when these things happen, but there's hope too, and plenty of good things to look forward to. Clinging on to something that's run it's course will only end up destroying you, so let yourself feel the hurt and get it out of your system!

*17 years* - and you're just 31?! Wow. I'm so sorry to hear that, emma... *Hugs*

Sorry to hear that. Just keep your head up high and don't forget you've got friends.

Just what all the good folks above have said Emma...we are just a click away if you need it and take good care...

Taaaa..haaaa...ha..haaaaaaim!!!

Is on yer saaa..haaaa...de!

Yes it is

All the best, the future is now!

It's also jist a PM awa'

IZ.

be relieved, there is more to life. One will learn to cope with it and... simply live on. Things you have lived with for so long suddenly disappearing always rip a part of yourself with them. But you can leave it behind. Most importantly, I think, is to find something to live for again.

One of the hardest things in life. The end of a long term relationship...

All the good things are said above. HL is a good place to talk to people and find true caring friends. It's you who has to deal with this pain which is, from my own experience, horrible....like someone close to you died indeed. Just do not forget that you are never alone...

All the best Emma!

Hang on girl and never lose faith, hope and love ...

All the best ...

Keep yer heed up

Time, no matter how long it takes, will heal these wounds

Still so young at 31 emma, as everyone has correctly said, time heals. Stay strong, and lookforward to The Heartland Effect at Zottegem.

I had a 10yr relationship/marriage that collapsed and have only recently emptied the last of his things from the attic. Even though it was for the greater good that this happened (he is now in prison) it makes it no easier when I am reminded of him as he is part of my past that created my present. My heart goes out to you.

I recently came out of a relationship myself. Mine was nothing compared to 17 years but I know it's hard to come to terms with.
The others are right, time is the best healer and you will feel better with time.

I found the best way to forget about her was to do fun things with friends that would occupy me.

All the best emma

hi em

although we don't know each other personally. If you need a listening ear/eye, you'll know how to PM. Hang onthere. Zottegem is not far away

SINsister wrote

you're just 31?!

Exactly! however crap it is now, it will get better.
I came out of a longterm relationship at 32 and now ten years later I'm married with twin daughters

Actually . I'm not sure if that's cheering or not ,but it just shows you never know what's around the corner...even Justin Hawkins' Tiger

take care

I wish I was 31 again.
Sorry to hear your news Emma
But you know you're amongst friends at HL.
Remember the HL effect & you can do anything.

Steve

_emma_ wrote:As it says in the topic, this is just a thread for those who wish me well.

Which is surely all of us.

markfiend wrote:

_emma_ wrote:As it says in the topic, this is just a thread for those who wish me well.

Which is surely all of us.

seconded.

It sounds like it wasn't to be ems, move on and find the right one...

best wishes

someone said :THE SHOW MUST GO ON....
now a new life is starting for you...
forget past...
don't cry and think for a good future

it is probably hard to believe now that there'll be a day, when it doesnt hurt anymore. But this day will come. Believe that your next relationship will be better - and it will be.

All the best!

Thank you all.
I will reply to all the PMs, sooner or later. Not just now, cause now I have to check the trains between my place - Geiselwind - Zottegem - my place, and decide whether to go by train or by car. If I go by car, I will have 3 or 4 free places between Geiselwind and Zottegem.
As for the relationship, by far the worst thing about it is that I feel guilty for its demise. Not entirelly, but partially, yes. Was it his drinking that caused my sick obsession with the Sisters, or was my obsession what caused his drinking? This very question won't let me sleep at night, and as I try to go back to our past, I still can't see which to put the blame on.
Which is why I decided to put the announcement on this very forum.

So sorry to hear your news mate, my wife rightfully describes me as
'an emotional retard' so I wont spout anything, just wish you good luck with your future happiness.