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My wife announced yesterday she wants a divorce.
Marvellous.
9 years, umpteen Sisters concerts together (and a few Bauhaus and Levellers) and she wants out... for no reason!

Let me know how I feel.

Coz at the mo I don't.

Apologies for being depressing.

34 and single again - frightening.

I'll be happier soon - won't I?

I think 'The Levellers' is the problem.

sorry, we are here for you, honest
share the grief

I' m very sorry, streamline.

Did it really came out of nothing? I can't believe, that there are no signs before. It must be a real shock then.

must agree with Jess' post, it really can't have come out of nothing, tell us, a lot of us have been there

and survived

we even have t-shirts

I didn't get the t-shirt but I do have the divorce.

Like they said it can't be out of nowhere, but even if it is/isn't the facts don't change so right now it's not too relevant at a guess. The world carries on and you need to make sure you do too.

James Blast wrote:must agree with Jess' post, it really can't have come out of nothing, tell us, a lot of us have been there

and survived

we even have t-shirts

Been there, seen it, bought the t-shirt

We are there for you

Every break-up is unique, no two people deal with things in quite the same way, and very few couples have been to an identical number of Sisters gigs together. But, if you follow a similar pattern I went through starting early this year...

There's the period of sadness and regret, which is really not nice at all. Then after a few months you'll feel a bit better and enter, with occasional relapses, the "never again" phase. With a bit of luck, that will start to wear off and eventually you'll be (more or less) fine again. And ready to make the same mistakes, if you're not careful!

I'd been with my wife for 8 years, it has taken me most of this year to get to the stage of feeling more or less fine and allow myself to love somebody.

It's not the end of the world, although it may seem like it for a while. Good luck.

streamline wrote:
I'll be happier soon - won't I?

You will. Just doesnt feel like it at the moment.
and it won't do for awhile either.

have faith, and hang in there.

streamline wrote: I'll be happier soon - won't I?

No you won't. Ups and downs but very slowly up.
But....you will feel better eventually.

First thing is to learn to realize and accept it.

Always feel free to PM....got some experiences my own.

Take care!

James Blast wrote:I think 'The Levellers' is the problem.

sorry, we are here for you, honest
share the grief

During sad times it's good to have a laugh streamline...

Nice one Mr. Blast!!!

I am so sorry!
I hope you find a way to deal with this situation without going mad! It must be the most awfull thing there is, to lose someone you love.
All the best to you

Must be very hard indeed

But as all the wise men (and women) said before me, you'll be fine eventually, just try to come out of the hard part in one piece

I was devorced by my first wife and 2 suicide attempts later, hey presto she's fine. But she'll not be making that mistake again even if she could find anyone as good and as loyal as me.

machiavelli wrote:I was devorced by my first wife and 2 suicide attempts later, hey presto she's fine. But she'll not be making that mistake again even if she could find anyone as good and as loyal as me.

just because she wants a divorce doesn't mean you are in the wrong about anything as she will discover when she is lonely and regretful. Let her leave and let her take the cat.

life begins at 34!

livejournal is over there

I don't know what to say in response to everyone, I am overwhelmed with people's supportive (and funny) messages.

Last night I was temporarily wallowing in my personal vat of self-pity and was fuelling myself with copious pints of London Pride.

This vat has now been drained (or drunk!) and today is another day.

I must have been at my lowest to post my message last night as I do not normally share my feelings (what with me being a male and all) but in a nice way I am glad I did.

Thanks again to everyone, and apologies if people think I shouldn't have posted (I can't say I totally disagree with you!)

Normal sarcasm has been restored,

She'll get the cat over my dead body.......

streamline wrote: She'll get the cat over my dead body.......

Now that's the spirit I like on HL!!!
Welcome and enjoy!

MB *you'll get used to me, maybe*

streamline wrote:
I must have been at my lowest to post my message last night as I do not normally share my feelings (what with me being a male and all) but in a nice way I am glad I did.

Sharing feelings helps. The being male thing is just being hard on yourself with no reason...

Oh yeah....Boys don't cry.....

streamline wrote: She'll get the cat over my dead body.......

My ex-wife took the kids and the bloody cat

BillyBadBreaks wrote:

streamline wrote: She'll get the cat over my dead body.......

My ex-wife took the kids and the bloody cat

You think THATS bad, EMWK & Derek Rs ex'es f**ked off with their Ghost Dance records, now that's bad!.

scotty wrote:

BillyBadBreaks wrote:

streamline wrote: She'll get the cat over my dead body.......

My ex-wife took the kids and the bloody cat

You think THATS bad, EMWK & Derek Rs ex'es f**ked off with their Ghost Dance records, now that's bad!.

Blondes?

Check your PMs...

I didn't say it!